Love -- The Most Powerful Force of The Universe and How to Utilize ItMetaphysical Mind #37Hello Friend The most powerful force in the universe is love. Which is why, this issue of Metaphysical Mind will be focused on the concept of love and how you can use it for your own benefit and for the benefit of others. “Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend.” – Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. This issue will be organized as follows: 1. Choosing Love by Jason Randhawa
1. Choosing Love I was once asked what I thought the opposite of fear was. After I went inside to search for an answer, I found the answer to be “love”. It took some time for me to understand this, but once I understood it, I realized the great importance of love. Many people are experiencing the limiting state of fear, because they are not showing enough love. The solution to most fears is simply to show more love. If there is one thing that I could tell all people, my most important gem of wisdom would be to Love Each Other. Radiate love through all of your actions and thoughts. Stay centered in the heart, and always come from the heart. If there is one thing you remember/learn from this Ezine, make it the importance of showing love and affection for all other beings around you.
Jason
“Where there is great love, there are always miracles.” – Willa Cather
2. Magic of Love: An Introduction by Mark Ivar Myhre There's a lot more to the magic of love than we could ever cover in one short article, but here's a good place to start. See, we're so used to hoarding our love - locking it up; hiding it; keeping it safe - that we often end up hiding it even from ourselves. So often, we don't allow ourselves to even FEEL our own love. Not to mention the love that comes from outside sources. Love is simply too valuable to lose. It's the motivation and the reason for living, when you get right down to it. The first thing to consider: an unlimited supply of love exists and is always available to us. It's easy to say those words. It's easy to read them, too, and nod your head in agreement. "Makes sense." But it's much harder to let it in... to embrace it as really being true. Because when you REALLY let it - YOU have an unlimited supply of love available to YOU - it changes everything about you. Your motivation changes. Your mindset changes. Your priorities shift. Just to name a few things... I'd like to show you how you can PROVE to yourself you have an unlimited supply of love. That's always available. Simultaneously, you'll also be getting a little taste of the magic of love. Here's how: Give your love away freely. That's it. A simple statement that hides worlds of intricate meanings and applications and treasures and rewards and possibilities. Certainly it needs some explaining... Because lets face it. You'd have to be CRAZY to give your love away freely! People will walk all over you. You'll be crushed - chewed up and spit out - by an uncaring world. Because, um, nobody's as loving as you, right? Even if the implied argument is true: you'll be used by others if you love freely - here's a way to side step the issue. Start by freely loving yourself. And don't tell anybody! What does it mean to 'freely love' anyway? It means to love without an agenda of any kind. Loving without manipulation. Without hidden motivation. Without expectation of reciprocity. In other words, without the taint. Without the *intention* of getting anything in return. WITH the intention of giving love - pure and simple. "I'm going to create an alliance with love; so I can become more. So love can become more." If you start by loving yourself - with the purest, cleanest, clearest intention you can muster, something interesting happens. 1. You feel a little more love. 2. More love ALWAYS comes in. 3. You quickly come up against any resistance you have to love. Your blockages to feeling more love quickly come to the surface: "I can't be loved. This won't work. Blah, blah, blah..." You can start to experience the magic of love in two ways: First, you experience for yourself that the more love you freely give - even if it's to yourself - the more love that comes in to take it's place. Second, you get in touch with the blockages to feeling love. Blockages to love are basically lies you've told yourself with enough repetition and enough emotional energy that they've become hard as stone. Or iron. Or so they seem. When a blockage comes up - you could visualize it - objectify it - as a stone wall, or a hunk of iron, or whatever makes sense for you. Then, simply start loving that object unconditionally. By loving it you can begin to erode it. By loving it with clear intention, you will see IT more clearly. By loving it with pure intention, you see it more purely. So it becomes easier to let it go. It takes practice to give love freely. Whether it's to yourself or another. Not because love is difficult, but because we've been so strongly programmed to NOT give love freely. But now you have a secret way to start. And it will help you start feeling the magic of love. Mark Ivar Myhre, The Emotional Healing Wizard, offers cutting-edge tips and techniques for ending all types of emotional pain. Go To: http://www.emotional-times.com
3. What Is Love? by Gini Grey What images and notions come up for you when think about love? Warm and fuzzy feelings, babies cooing, romance, heartache, loyalty and devotion are some associations to the word. Do you have any rules and expectations around love such as how people should treat their loved ones, or who you can and can’t love, or how people are supposed to express their love? All of these concepts and regulations actually inhibit love. Love isn’t a commodity to be traded, sold, bartered or negotiated. It’s the essence of who we are and it is free flowing within us. Many have been taught that to have love requires having someone else love you. This just leads people to restrict the amount of love they feel based on how many people love them or how much others love them. You can’t get love ‘out there’ and you can’t measure love. It originates within us and it’s infinite. It doesn’t matter how much your parents did or didn’t love you, how many friends you have or don’t have, or whether your partner does or doesn’t express their love to you. Only you allow or stop the flow of love into your life. No one can give you any more love than you already have and no one can take it away. What it would be like to let go of all the concepts, rules and past experiences you have of love and instead open your heart to feel the abundance of love within? Imagine what your life would be like from this place.
Try these reflective exercises to gain more insights about love: • How would you describe love? What it feels like, looks like and anything else you can imagine. Do you have any charged memories around love (positive or negative)? • What are your rules and expectations about love? Look within your relationships for the hidden rules. Do you expect to be treated in a certain way? Do you withhold love for any reason? Do you have criteria for who you share love with, or how you express it, or how it is supposed to be shown to you? • How would you like love to feel, look and be expressed in your life? What would you have to let go of to experience this? What would you have to embrace?
Try these experiential exercises to increase your experience of love: • Sit with your eyes closed in a relaxed, centered, meditative state and become aware of the highest form of love, above and beyond any rules or limitations. You might at first see it as an image, symbol or color, or you might just sense it. Let yourself feel it and bring it down into the cells of your body. Feel the essence and vibration of love and let it flow throughout your whole space until it overflows out of you. • Let yourself tune into any past-time pictures you carry within you about love that may be charged or untrue. One by one, release these out of your space and watch them disappear. Replace these with your highest vibration of love. • Whenever you are tempted to withhold love from another, shut down within, or react to someone else’s unloving behaviour, instead turn up the volume of your own inner abundance of love so you know that no one else controls how much love you can have, feel or share. Gini Grey is a Transformational Coach and author of the book "From Chaos to Calm: How to Shift Unhealthy Stress Patterns and Create Your Ideal Balance in Life" and the CD "Create What You Want in Your Life". For more articles go to http://www.ginigrey.com.
4. Love’s Simple Truths - Part 1 by Ross Heaven Love is the order of the universe and we are its atoms.
Wherever and whenever people meet, it is never long before love and relationships – their problems and confusions, their bliss and beauty - is discussed. Love is as essential to us as air; a force that drives us all. It determines who we are, who we become, what we can achieve and, through this, how the world will evolve. It may even determine how long we live. Policy advisors to government now claim that the single strongest predictor of whether an individual will be alive in 10 years time is his answer now to the question: “Does somebody love you?” Psychologists have found links between love and self-esteem, mental, emotional, and physical well-being, and freedom from stress and anxiety. By sad contrast, those working with Romanian orphans have also found that children who are denied love can develop a “virtual black hole” where the emotional centres of their brains should be. Because of this, they can never grow up to be “fully human”. Studies like these show us the importance of love. And yet, so many questions remain unanswered. How many of us can say, for example, what love really is, or how to find it, nurture it, and learn from it so it can feed and enrich our souls? How do we make our relationships work so that they – and we - are healthy, happy, and whole? These are questions which scientists cannot answer. For that we need a Master who can teach us love’s simple truths and guide us onto the path of the heart.
Rumi: The Master of Love’s Simple Truths This year marks the 800th anniversary of one such Master. Sufi mystic, Jalaluddin Rumi was born on September 29 1207 in Eastern Persia. As a child he gained a reputation as a gifted spiritual teacher, and went on to establish the Sufi order of whirling dervishes known as The Path of the Master. During his life Rumi composed thousands of verses of mystical love poetry, the messages of which concern the notion of tahweed (unity), where, through love itself, we become one with “the Beloved”: the divine spirit of love within all of us. For Rumi, we are all divine and there is no problem we can face which does not have a solution, no question we can ask which does not have an answer, as long as we remember who and what we are. What, after all, is impossible to God? And the essence of God is love. To love well, therefore, may be our most important task as spiritual human beings, because only by this can we overcome our difficulties and distractions, and reconnect with our true selves. Through love we can make miracles. To find love, however, we must surrender to love, knowing that our partners are reflections of ourselves and that we are both capable of the deepest, most soulful, and intoxicating of loves – if we choose to see things this way. But let us start at the beginning… What Is Love Anyway? The word ‘love’ is nowadays poorly defined. It stands for so much yet can mean so little. Other ages and cultures were clearer, suggesting that they were more thoughtful about and respectful of it. The ancient Greeks, for example, had many different words for love, describing its various forms and how each feels, including eros (sensuality and passion), philo (the love between friends), and agape (the love of God, or, more generally, the kindness and compassion we show to all people when we recognise them as divine and special beings, just like us). For Rumi, any (and all) of these forms of love is a gateway through which we can step to meet God. When we are loving and loved by another, our perceptions change and things become brighter, clearer, and more meaningful. We see the world as it really is: alive, intelligent, and benign. Even a gesture from our lovers can leave us swooning in sacred meaning. We wake up to the world and, through this awakening, we realise that everyone and all things are part of a single consciousness: We are One - and, more remarkable still: We are all God. The problem for modern relationships is the pace of life. We do not have time to reflect on love, to experience it fully, or even to be in the company of our lovers as much as we would like. We are always wanted somewhere else. On top of this, in the modern age, we are all consumers and consumed. As consumers of a fast-food lifestyle, we have grown to expect instant answers and gratification; to simply be ‘in love’ and our lovers to feel the same. Love’s confusions arise from this because love, despite the spin which makes it look so easy, is never really that simple. It requires that we look more deeply at ourselves and our lovers, who have been gifted to us by God for our mutual spiritual advancement, and not approach them just with expectations to be met. If we accept love in this way, we will learn from it and grow; if we have demands and expectations, however, we will be disappointed and experience rejection and hurt when love does not go our way. These feelings click into our deepest wounds and lead to defensiveness and conflict – the opposite of love in any form. To avoid this, we must be clear on what ‘love’ means to us, because when we know what we want there is less room for misunderstanding. We must also be willing to explore and release our feelings of rejection if and when they arise. By doing so, we free ourselves from hurt so that in future – and in Rumi’s words – we “Do not revisit the past” because “This fleeting moment must not be wasted”. Ross Heaven is a therapist, workshop leader, and the author of several books on shamanism and healing, including Darkness Visible, the best-selling Plant Spirit Shamanism, and Love’s Simple Truths. His website is http://www.thefourgates.com where you can also read how to join his sacred journeys to the shamans and healers of the Amazon.
5. Love’s Simple Truths – Part 2 by Ross Heaven Intimate relationships are our universities of the heart. In them we will find challenges and blessings, ecstasy and sorrows, and come to realise that our lovers are our mirrors and we are reflected in their eyes. If there is conflict in our relationships it is because we ourselves are in conflict; if there is joy and fulfilment it is because we have found peace within ourselves. Love seeks balance, stability, and a subtle deepening. For it to evolve in a positive way, it is not necessary, therefore, to force things in our relationships or to worry that we are not doing enough or being as loving as we could; it is only necessary, as a first step, to Do No Harm. This is the first principle of love and Rumi urges us to use it to find our equilibrium: If you are like the wind: sometimes hot, sometimes cold, Find the place within you where heat and cold are no more Then love can evolve naturally towards its perfection. In Sufi tradition, life is a mystery and we cannot know its secrets, but there is a logic to the universe beyond our understanding and things are unfolding as they should to help us learn, heal, and to love. We are all as perfect as we can be in this special moment. The relationship you have now, therefore, is perfect for who you are at this given time because you still have more to learn from it. But that doesn’t mean that you or your lover cannot become more perfect still! Each passing second brings change, the possibility of healing, new insights, and new ways of being. Perfection is not an absolute, but a process of evolution. “In aiming for perfection”, Rumi reminds us, “it is God that we become”. As we become more loving, we attract more love to us. Every relationship – even the most unsatisfactory – is part of this evolutionary process, giving us the opportunity to practice our love, to open our hearts, and create perfection in the moment. If we are wise to love we will learn from it and this will allow us to better understand ourselves and move forward. To do so, we need to look at ourselves, at what motivates us or holds us back, and at where we must place more of our attention so we are balanced and whole. When we are perfect beings, perfection cannot help but flow towards us. Rumi’s advice, then, is simple: Keep company with Saints
And When Perfection Seems Hard to Come By? It is difficult, when our hearts are broken or we are sad at the world, to feel that such perfection exists or can be found, or that we can trust enough to give ourselves completely to another. It is our challenge to do so. We must be the “Spiritual Warriors” Rumi implores us to become, and not give in to despair at our ‘failures’, for they are opportunities, too, for learning and growth. Come, come, whoever you are!
Relationships work because of openness, vulnerability, and a desire to love, no matter what. When we approach our lovers with a bitter heart or with sadness and fear in our souls, that is what we bring to them and what our relationship becomes: “I have run to you because I am afraid of myself. Please don’t give me back to myself!” No relationship can ‘save’ us from the problems we bring to it. Instead, it will magnify them so we see what needs to be healed and are given an opportunity to do so. If we find it hard to give love, for example, then it will be equally hard for love to find us, and this will be central to every relationship we have until we decide to heal it. Our relationships reveal these truths and this is our lover’s gift. It is clinging to hope and expectations – the ‘what could have beens’ – that cause us pain when we absorb ourselves with relationships that have failed. When we learn from them and let go, however, our pain is released and we can greet new lovers with wisdom, dignity, and respect for ourselves and for them. There is a simple law of the universe that embraces us in times of sorrow: Love seeks balance, and our pain now is equal in measure to the joy that will come. Trust that it will and allow yourself to be blessed for, as the Master of Love remind us, “Peace always keeps company with troubles”. The important thing, then, is to know the unresolved issues in our hearts. In this we find freedom, not shame. By understanding our pains and fears we and our lovers can find creative solutions so that love can flow once more. Knowing our answers, we can navigate our relationships so that, one step at a time, we give more of ourselves and open our hearts to love. The person we are learning to love is always ourselves. When we understand this, our lover becomes our ally in helping us reconnect with our souls so that what is hidden becomes visible to us. The mirror of my soul is your face, my love;
What, Then, Are Our Blocks to Love There is a conflict within all human beings between what our souls know to be true and what we are taught is true. What every newborn child knows in his bliss-state of being is the reality of love; what he is taught by life is to fear. We will all have far more training in the latter than in how to love and to recognise it in others! Through our conditioning, we become experts in withholding trust. Fear closes us down and, since the world we create is the one we perceive, once we shut ourselves off from love, fear is all we know because it is all we see. To change this we must be courageous in love so that, through our example, those around us can also wake up to the truth. By acting from love - no matter what - we create a more loving world, free of the limitations we have known. “Leap into the fires of love”, writes Rumi. When you know ecstasy
We must embrace love and allow it to flow – fearlessly, passionately, uncompromisingly – as the route to freedom for our souls. The path of the heart is one we must walk now. The time for staying home is over.
Ross Heaven is a therapist, workshop leader, and the author of several books on shamanism and healing, including Darkness Visible, the best-selling Plant Spirit Shamanism, and Love’s Simple Truths. His website is http://www.thefourgates.com where you can also read how to join his sacred journeys to the shamans and healers of the Amazon.
Focus on love, Jason
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